Saturday, July 09, 2011

Obedient Wives, my Ass
It’s been a while since I’ve felt so annoyed reading an article, but somehow the article at the link above really pissed me off.
To be as fair as I can, I do believe that its GREAT for a wife to submit to their husbands, but there's a caveat : the husband has to treat their wife properly, with respect and consider her needs - emotional, physical etc.
Blockquotes are from the article, point form (denoted by "-") are my thoughts.

it intends to curb various social problems, including prostitution and gambling, by showing Muslim wives how to "be submissive and keep their spouses happy in the bedroom". This, in turn, would lead to more harmonious marriages and societies
- So, does this mean that social problems like prostitution and gambling are caused by women who don’t want to have sex whenever their husbands do? Is it not, at least, a little unfair to pin the blame on this?
- If it is really true, then why not start a club teaching husbands to control their impulses, instead of one telling women to be good in bed?
"In Islam, if the husband wants sex and the wife is not in the mood, she has to give in to him," the Singapore club's co-founder Darlan Zaini said recently. "If not, the angels will curse her. This is not good for the family."
- Taking out the religion, I’m just focusing on the first part.
- Why is it that the husband has to get his way? Is there to be NO mutual compromise?
- How can the husband find any pleasure in having his way with an unwilling wife? Yes, it may not be apparent on a physical level, since they are taught to behave like whores, but how can it not be detected on an emotional level in someone you’re (supposed to be) close to? In some societies, this could be tantamount to rape.
by becoming a "good whore … to your husband" and serving him "better than a first-class prostitute", women could help "curb social ills like prostitution, domestic violence, human trafficking and abandoned babies" – all of which she attributed to unfulfilled sexual needs
- Once again, the unwilling wife is to blame? Like I said, teach the men to control their sexual needs! Or if you’re so insistent that women are to blame, why not crack down hard on the commercial prostitutes, and those who visit them?
Even the Islamic Religious Council of Singapore denounced the club's views as myopic, and said in a statement: "Happiness in a marriage goes beyond receiving sexual fulfilment from one's wife."
- Oh yeah… now we’re talking sense.
Defending the OWC's controversial stance, Fauziah Ariffin, the Malaysian chapter's national director, said: "When we said that husbands should treat their wives like first-class prostitutes, we were not putting wives on the same level with prostitutes."
"We are talking about first-class elite types, not street hooker types … Ordinary prostitutes can only provide good sex, but not love and affection, which only a wife can provide," she told the Malay Mail.

- Oh OKAY. So you're not putting wives on the same level as just any prostitute, you're putting wives on the same level as a high class PROSTITUTE. Well done.
- In what way is a FIRST CLASS ELITE prostitute SO DIFFERENT from a prostitute? They get better gifts and payment? So if the wife is a GOOD FIRST CLASS ELITE PROSTITUTE, does that mean she gets the equivalent PAYMENT from her CUSTOMER?
- If a woman learns to just fulfill her husband’s desire, she’ll soon use her body as a tool – to keep away impending disaster, to get what she wants etc, and not because of love and mutual respect.
- How can a woman respect herself if she’s taught to emulate a prostitute. And how can she respect her husband who has no self control. I’m sure that won’t create a whole new generation of angsty, emotionally dissatisfied women, and I’m sure that won’t create more social problems. Well, social problems are all due to women screwing up (or should I say “not wanting to screw”), anyway, right… so I guess there’s nothing new there then~
"Divorce – and other social ills – won't stop just because the wife is good in bed," she said. "Research shows that divorce in Malaysia is primarily due to economic factors, not because a wife hasn't been 'obedient' to her husband."
- I thank you, Robia Kosai, for making your stand, and doing your research. I hope nothing makes you back down from it. You’ll have my vote, if I ever become a Malaysian citizen.
As for the tenuous future of the OWC in Singapore, the club may very well have to open under a different moniker. "OWC is too controversial," Zaini was quoted as saying. "We can use a simpler name like 'Happy Family' or something."
- Zaini, I do hope that you know it’s not the name that turns us off. It’s your organisation’s aims that do. It turns us off so bad we’ll be celibate for the rest of our lives.


Ya ok, fine. I accept that men have different needs from women.
Here's my solution 1 and solution 2 for you.
If both are unaffordable, I'm sure either your left or right hand would do a great job, just add some lube.