[ 30052007 1.59pm decision ]

talking to hammy recently has made me think about stuff for a few days.
he asked me
"do you think love is a choice or a feeling"
those of you know know him would know he's going through a tough time (again). and he simply says... "i made the decision to love her, so i stuck with it."
the romantics out there would refute this by saying that love is not about choices, that its a feeling you have, that you can't explain.

well... i think love is a mix of both. and its more a decision than it is a choice. and since humans normally don't choose the worst path for themselves to walk down, they would decide to go through their lives with someone they at least, remotely, liked.
its not purely a feeling. long term love aka marriage is not meant to be fun, as asta puts it. its alot of work and if you keep second guessing whether you want to be with the other person, you'll just end up wanting to run away half the time.
and also, what happens when the heady floaty in love feeling goes away? thats when the decision sticks.

its never just about two people... the world is involved as well. conversely, if you let what the world dictates to be true affect you, the internal struggle will kill both of you.