Sunday, September 27, 2009

[ 27092009 5.47pm | girlsandboys ]

i'm female.
so what i'm writing here must be taken in context.
the main difference between guy friends, and gal friends, is that guy friends will never be jealous of you at all.
the difficulty instead, is that your guy friend can fall for you, or vice versa.
if the liking is mutual, then ohhkayy.. glhf. otherwise, you're doomed to a few months of feeling awkward, and potentially losing a good friend.
my girlfriends, are classified into - close, and acquaintances.
with my guy friends, however, they are classified into - close, good and acquaintances
the middle ground "good" is possible because guys don't tend to judge girls as much as girls judge other girls.
the girls who know me... either love me or hate me. i think. there's no in between. and i guess they either have misconceptions about me, or know me for who i am.
in a sense, guys are easy.
as long as you're not a total turn off which instantly sends them running for cover, they tend to be more forgiving when it comes to character and looks. more so than how girls treat other girls, at least.
i guess thats why males are programmed to marry females.
(yes, i DO belive this is the natural order of things. if you disagree, by all means. but i'm not going to go into a debate on this)
i do realise, however, that my close girlfriends last longer than close/good male friends. but close girlfriends are few and far between.
you're more likely to walk down orchard road without seeing a single ah-lian, than to find a close girl friend.


happee burfdae cloudia. <-- this one always around to listen to me grumble/whine/emo/go siao etcetc


Anonymous said...

As you grow older, you will realise, that its easier to have good friends of the opposite sex. Maybe you are more settled down, or have better control of your emotions, maybe more mature.

But i do agree with you, there will be awkward moments, when love happens and its one sided but then again,things like that is nature. If love happens,it happens.Whether it has a happy or bad ending,its the process that counts :).

tammy said...

=) no matter what sex though, finding a good friend is hard. i'm starting to really understand that fact.

Anonymous said...

The only way to have a friend is to be one.

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.