[ 17032007 10.16pm how to tell a girl that you like her ]

here's a useful guide for all you lousy guys or nerds out there who have no idea what to do about the girl you like. [cough*ant*cough]
or maybe you're just curious to know.
take it all with a pinch of salt though, because its coming from ME.
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before i get into it, lets start with a quote. an actual conversation today at sakae sushi actually.
ant: so ice, how do you tell a girl that you like her. or how do you let her know?
ice: erm... well, you ignore her, don't talk to her, wait for her to talk to you, act mysterious...
ant: ok... its very clear that ice doesn't want me to EVER get a gf.
the rest of us: ROFLOL.
lux: ant is COOL man!
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so with that for background... here goes.
there are some things to consider before you tell the girl you like her.
1) do i know her well enough, or at least how she is like?
2) does she have a bf already?
3) is she straight?
4) do you think she likes you? or at least likes having you around?
5) are you un-attached?
6) are you, in the least, compatible with her?
if you answered no to any of these points, then u better think twice, thrice... many times.

so, actually 1) is subjective. because she may not exactly be very close to you personally, but if she's part of the group you hang out with, chances are you'll have gotten some kind of idea of how she is like. cos, no matter how you may try, there's always things about another person that you will never really know. i mean, my parents for example, have been married for like... 30 years or something and they still do discover new things about each other that they havent known.
actually, if you said no to 1) and/or 6) you could actually take a risk and tell her. however, if you answered no to 2-4, then, STAY CLEAR, or you're asking for Trouble with a capital T.
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so after considering these points, and you've decided that you just wanna let her know, i've found that sometimes actions speak much louder than words.
a sincere look in the eyes with unguarded affection (although you may be talking to her about something as trivial as the weather) sometimes does the trick better than telling her directly, especially if you just got to know her. however, i do expect that she will require a confession in future just to make sure that her gut feelings were right.
so... hang around with her lots, and talk to her when you can, but not going overboard doing so, cos it might get a little irritating.
if it gets to the point where she starts asking you weird questions and pressing you for answers, perhaps asking for your contacts as well, its 80% sure that you've hooked her.
which is the right time for you to just express in words how you feel about her.
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and thats it for furryfish's guide to confessing your affections to a girl.